Why is everyone so obsessed with sex??? Why does everyone think it’s necessary for a healthy long term romantic relationship, or at least necessary to be “comfortable” with it?? Why???? Why is this a thing?? I mean I know why it’s a thing, but why aren’t more people critical of it?? For me this was like the easiest thing to unlearn. Maybe that’s cuz I’m sex repulsed and just naturally don’t want to believe that there’s something “wrong” with me, but come on!! Do these people think those of us who don’t want to have sex often, or ever, but are alloromantic, should just be doomed to a life without any romantic relationships, or just to very short ones or something?? Cuz no!! No! That’s not how it works! I mean I get that sex is important for some people in romantic relationships, and that’s fine, but why is it SO unfashionable to people that someone could be in a healthy long term romantic relationship with another person or people without sex?? And these are generally the same people who accept that a sexual relationship can exist without a romantic one, so !!! What on earth!! Where is the logic there? UGH I’m so frustrated.
Lol. Ableist messages from my homophobic biphobic transphobic “best friend”. I don’t even know why I’m mad or why I didn’t expect that. >_> sigh.
I got out of bed. I don’t know if this is a victory or if I’m gonna start feeling even worse now.
I am way too depressed to get out of bed. Like I was filled with crushing sadness a week or so ago, but now I feel nothing and idk if it’s worse or not cuz I feel nothing and it’s super uncool.
Anonymous said: Any chance of going a bit light on the pro-life hate? We get a lot of flack, but the majority of us are certainly pro-human. The government isn't, but it's never been fair to judge a group by its extremists. (I'm pro-life for the same reason I'm vegan, it has nothing to do with hating or punishing women.)
I really cannot hold back the flack on anti-choicers.
The “pro-life” (or anti-choice stance, as I call it) LITERALLY takes away a person’s choice when it comes to abortion. Literally. It tells a sentient, independent, and oftentimes horror-stricken person that they have no choice in the matter and must give their bodily autonomy away to a clump of cells that have no sentience and no personhood.
Also, depending on who you talk to, that could lead to arrest and imprisonment for “murder” of a “child”.
Be it a working woman who already has a couple of kids and their contraception didn’t work one time and they can’t afford another child, or a person who suffered incest pedophilic rape, it doesn’t matter; they should have safe, affordable access to abortion.
(“Why the dramatic, over-the-top example??” you ask? Because it happens.)
I don’t know how a vegan can be pro-life. Vegans fight for the bodily autonomy of non-human animals. Why would a vegan fight against bodily autonomy for persons who can get pregnant?? This goes against the very thing veganism is, and is actually more in line with carnism. (That we can use non-human animals however we please for whatever purpose by whatever means.)
Obviously I want less abortions to happen. The only way to achieve this is with affordable, safe birth control options. Unbiased, actual sex education for all, freedom of choice and no sex or body shaming of any kind. No religious tie-downs and abusive persons standing in the way of people who can get pregnant.
Now, if you say yourself “I can’t have an abortion, I can’t bring myself to do it. But I can’t and won’t decide for other people” is totally legit. That STILL makes you pro-choice because you are not forcing an opinion or option on someone else.
Also I know people will say “Don’t you dare bring up people who murder abortion doctors or blow up clinics; that’s a small percentage of pro-life people!” Is it really? After all of the indoctrination, that is oftentimes religious? (I’ve NEVER met an atheist or agnostic who was pro-life. I’ve only EVER met HIGHLY religious people, often Christian, who were pro-life.) After being taught your whole life that abortion is sin, the people who commit abortion are evil devil sinners who will go to hell?
People say the ELF and ALF are terrorists, when their whole goal is to bring down oppressive establishments and harm no sentient being in the process. Pro-lifers that murder abortion doctors and destroy clinics are not just killing people, but destroying the lives of the people who NEED those services.
Also: people SCREAMING at people who can get pregnant as they walk into a clinic? Fuck them, I hope they all fucking ROT. No person thinks “Lol I’m gonna get an abortion today, it’ll be totes fun! I can’t WAIT to piss off pro-lifers!” Whether they are in tears, angry and/or terrified, getting an abortion is a HARD decision to make. It is oftentimes costly as fuck, and drains a person of their time and energy which can take away from things like work.
So to conclude: fuck anti-choicers. I absolutely hate their stances, I hate their views and I hate their beliefs. What I hate more is that innocent people get harmed and/or killed and that peoples’ rights get taken away because some privileged piece of shit cannot take a single SECOND to stand in someone else’s shoes.
Except that not everyone has a hard time with that decision. For many people it’s an easy, even natural choice. Some people don’t want kids, for whatever reason. Maybe they’re too busy and have plans for the future and can’t deal with it, or can’t do it for financial reasons, and some people just have no desire to have children, for no particular reason that they can think of. These people’s decisions shouldn’t be less valid, or less valued by the pro-choice community.
Assuming it’s “always” a hard choice to make is ridiculous, harmful to our movement, and simply untrue. For many people, like myself, abortion would be an extremely easy choice. I know if I got pregnant, that is the first thing I would do. I would not think about it painfully and feel guilty once I’d decided, or after the procedure was over. It would be natural, and easy. The only potential difficulty (since I am very fortunate to have parents who would pay for it. I do understand that access to abortion facilities and obtaining the funds to pay for it can sometimes be what makes it difficult, not necessarily emotions.) for me would be the process itself, as I am sure it’s at least uncomfortable, if not painful, physically. There is literally nothing morally wrong or bad about getting an abortion. As was mentioned, all that’s happening is a bunch of cells being removed from one’s body. That happens all the time, in fact, (appendectomies for one, and other similar surgeries, and even getting a piercing removes a small amount of tissue) and nobody seems concerned about those other instances. Insinuating that it is a hard decision for every person having an abortion to make is harmful to those of us who wouldn’t have a hard time making the choice, and to our movement as a whole.
When we say that it’s always “hard” or “difficult” we imply that everyone having an abortion will feel guilty about it in some way, and that we secretly think it’s a bad thing. That reinforces the anti-choice belief that abortion is morally wrong (see how disgustingly pervasive this anti-choicer argument haas become), and makes those of us who wouldn’t feel bad about having an abortion, feel bad for not feeling bad. This is NOT to ignore or detract from the experiences of those for whom abortion was a difficult choice, of course. I know it can be hard for many people, and I understand the many reasons why. However, the constant repetition of abortion as a hard decision to make is detrimental to our movement in so many ways, and gives credence to the very beliefs we are fighting against.
OK rant over. Gosh I hope that made sense.
Why are ALL THE ORGS meeting tomorrow at 7???????????
Ok being sensitive and depressed really sucks. The tiniest things, like being told I’m supposed to wash my dishes in a different sink, make me feel like crying. It would really be great if I could have, like, a reasonable reaction to that, and if I could maybe NOT feel so shitty all the time. Yeah that would be great.